Dating someone who is hiv positive
But the same girlfriend from the nightclub got to him first. Florence confirms that disclosing one’s status could be received either way.“I’ve had a man show up for our Valentine’s dinner after he found out.But I would never not use protection with anyone else except my wife.” James nods his agreement again. Florence believes that we are still stuck in the past when it comes our attitudes towards HIV, no matter what medical advancements we make.Thirty-year-old Mary and her previous boyfriend never had the HIV disclosure talk. But he was asking about my chances of falling pregnant, not my HIV status. ’” says Kennedy, a 33-year-old designer at an ad agency. She said, ‘I’m curious but it’s so impolite to come right out and ask.’ I mean, when you’ve gone out with me on several dates, I’m thinking that the prospect of being intimate is quite high, right? In her case, disclosure became a minefield after she found out her status.They used condoms for the first two months of dating, “then one day we just did it without,” she says. After that I had a pregnancy scare which turned into a HIV scare. “I’d go out with my friends, meet guys and engage in some harmless flirting. He asked me if there was something he needed to know, like my health status.We got tested and both the pregnancy and our HIV status turned out negative.” Mary hasn’t dated anyone else since, but she says that next time, she will find a way to bring up the HIV conversation before discarding the condom. Knowing a partner’s HIV/Aids status is meant to be one of those early deal-breaker pieces of information, but people seem to be more concerned about not offending their potential partner with the conversation. When I’d leave to go to the bathroom, one of my girlfriends would tell the guy, ‘Be careful with that girl, she has Aids,’ despite the fact that being HIV positive doesn’t mean you have Aids.”She dated one man for four months during which she didn’t tell him her status because her girlfriends warned her that it would scare him away. And I knew that he knew.” That was the end of that.We’re all somehow hard-wired to take risks whenever sex is involved, which doesn’t help!
I think we are far from discussing or just letting anyone know our status the way one would do with diabetes or cancer.I ask them, “Do married couples talk about HIV/Aids?