My friend is dating an older guy
Or, hell, maybe I'm just overreacting about the whole thing. Im planning a long talk with her later tonight, then talking to her dad and then figuring out where we all go from there. I guess you could call the cops and ruin his life for doing something entirely normal.
I doubt that he'll treat her worse than a 18-19 year old guy would. This may color my answer, but I do think I was at a place where I could treat her like a real and valuable person much better that when I was younger and more insecure. My personal hunch is that however "mature" your daughter finds this guy, he's personally emotionally immature enough that he feels more comfortable being the big guy around teenagers than to be around peers his own age. They are probably relying on luck right now, and the last thing you/they need is a pregnancy.I cant change whats already happened; I just want to find the right way to deal with it and move on. Shes always had her head on straight, I dont think for a second she would allow anyone to pressure her into anything she didnt want to do, and Ive always believed she is WAY more sensible than I was at that age. He also said that he would do anything he could possibly do to show that he really cares for her. He has refused many times to even meet the Guy when he thought they were just friends, and now has labeled Guy a sick pervert.I dont think hes some sicko perv, but I AM uncomfortable with the age difference.(Were going to talk more specifically later tonight) I know she lied about dating because we would not have approved, and that is true.
So there will definitely be consequences for that, but as for the rest, I am at a loss. But knowing her, I can understand what an older person would like about her. And Guy has called apologizing about lying and they both have said he wanted to tell us, but she didnt. I spent a lot of time today talking him out of finding the Guy and doing bodily harm to him.Maybe STI testing if she hasn't been practicing safe sex every time, all the time.