I mean, I just don’t think that’s the proper way to do it.
Especially, like, it’s something different if you’re doing it over direct message. It’s something different if you’re doing it straight over a mention with, like, a picture or something.
Many teens are online throughout the day on multiple platforms where their communications are visible to others, and dodging or screening communications from one’s significant other in this environment is fraught with challenges. But if you’re kind of like, oh, it’s kind of a like a waste of time, then you won’t do that.
Teens in our focus groups described how a delay by their significant other in responding to a text message or phone call can make them feel ignored or unimportant, especially when they can see on social media that their partner is online: So recently, actually, like two days ago, my girlfriend actually got her phone taken away by her mom. So like a day or two passed by, I'm like wondering if I should text her. Check to see if she's looked at my Snap or whatever. But publicly sharing the details of one’s romantic life online is not without potential pitfalls, and many teens elect to not document their relationships in this way.
I think texting kind of makes you feel closer because boys are more shy. But when we text, it seems like it’s so much easier for him to talk to me. About a quarter – 27% – of teens with dating experience have had a partner use social media to track their whereabouts, and 27% of teens with dating experience say social media makes them feel jealous or unsure of their relationship.Other times this exposure involves an actual link to their former partner, and 42% have unfriended or blocked someone they used to be in a relationship with on social media. Some elect to delete all traces of their past relationship, while others prefer to maintain at least some connection.Teens in our focus groups described the range of behaviors that they engage in on social media in the aftermath of a break-up. If it was just because something simple, we don’t have time for each other or to hang out in person, then that’s fine. Ultimately, many teens agreed that this choice often depends on the nature of the relationship – the more serious the relationship, the less likely teens are to unfollow someone or remove all traces of their time together.S., over 100 teens shared with us their personal experiences with social media and romantic relationships. During the focus groups, technology – and especially social media – often was described as an integral part of the courting process for teens.
These are some of the key themes and responses we heard during these data-gathering sessions. And I met a girl on there and she lived up in [location]. Half of all teens (50%) have let someone know they were interested in them romantically by friending them on Facebook or another social media site, and 47% have expressed their attraction by liking, commenting or otherwise interacting with that person on social media.
But even as text messaging and social media play a pronounced role in all other aspects of teen life, teens feel strongly that an in-person conversation -- or at worst, a phone call -- is the most socially acceptable way to break up with someone.