Trouble with interracial dating
They do not care about what other people think about them and they are not deterred if no one (or if only a few) around them are doing what they are doing. Many people could simply care less about what their parents or family think about their life choices. Thankfully, in my experience, most families are at least quietly tolerant of interracial relationships. On one hand, you have absolutely no control or influence over how strangers treat you.They may not like it, but most parents aren’t disowning their children over it. You are in a relationship with a person…not a family. If you go out with your significant other, be prepared for at least one grossly ignorant comment shot your way at least once per month. However under no circumstances do I shrink away from my status. ” with a raised eyebrow, I don’t hesitate to answer in the affirmative.The downside to that however is people grow to believe that in order to insure the survival of your culture or community, you have to marry only within that particular community. Many websites and blogs that seem to celebrate interracial relationships are really just a front to perpetuate very narrow views on why interracial relationships are “ideal”, “preferred” or “superior”.Well at the end of the day, no romantic relationship, interracial or not, is the same.Now an interracial couple that includes an Asian woman has a fight on their hands no matter what in this regard; because if the woman is not the submissive and obedient type, then they have to decide how much effort (if any) they are going to put into combating this stereotype.If the woman is in fact submissive and obedient by nature, then they are going to have to fight for the legitimacy of their relationship in that it means more to them than just a man trying to get a woman who will obey him.Interracial couples also have to examine the stereotypes that they hold between each other. Today’s society is a “pick and choose” type of place where we are use to having lots of options.Did you hook up with a Black man because of his sexual prowess? Well this type of attitude does not translate very well over into the romantic arena, and yet, many people approach their love life like shopping in a mall.
If this is the case, take the high road and be polite, kind and thoughtful. Sadly, the minority community will label those who date outside of their race as “sellouts”.
Rather than focus on blogging about this fruitless subject, I began to think about why these are such hotbed topics to begin with.