Women over 40 and dating
The problem, says 50-year-old Lila, is that "most of the hits I get are guys under 34, like 65% of them." She has no interest in a dude with a cougar fantasy.(All of the women we spoke to for this article asked to have their names changed for the sake of privacy.) And yet a single girl's gotta date, and doing it online can seem like a good place to start.Is this how it will all go down as you grow older, you with your stories and a circus of cats to keep you warm at night?Sydney, a whip-smart 55-year-old writer who has been dating online for 14 years hoping to find the one to finally settle down with, had a similar experience years ago when she met up with a man for the first time at a bar on the Danforth area of Toronto. "I think he's done a runner." Sydney is certain he wasn't into her physically. " When you're in your 20s, outrageous dating tales are expected – a hilarious rite of passage.Literal clowns aside, if you are over 40, you might want to bypass the dating app, Tinder, where 53% of the audience is between 18 and 24, and rumour has it that it's more for hookups than happily-ever-afters.You would have better luck on the paid site, e Harmony, if you can get past the 400-plus questions on sign up.After the prophet, Carmen booked a date with a dentist she met on Match.
(When he had asked her about her own religious beliefs, Carmen had just said “non-practising Catholic.”) Now here he was confessing the depths of his faith.You might not find your mate, but a good friend or a business associate." Her biggest frustration as a straight, single, over-40 woman, though, has to do with age.Finding a guy your own age is tough for a gal in midlife.It may be tempting for some women to dream about joining the two million mostly successful marriages e Harmony says it has helped generate (the site also boasts a divorce rate of just 3.86%).
Or with lighter expectations, they may surf over to Plenty Of Fish which offers fewer questions – and no fees – where the pond is stocked with 100 million users worldwide, with four million active every month.
(Just be aware that e Harmony rejects would-be daters who say they’re separated on the questionnaire – only the legally unattached need apply.) What does work when it comes to attracting the fellas?